Aikido is a form of martial arts
focused on protecting both the attacker and the defender. To perhaps
oversimplify: if they’re pushing, pull;
if they’re pulling, push. Push back and
you’re creating conflict!
The
first technique of verbal aikido is Selective Agreement—look for something
you can
agree with in what the person is
saying. Too often we’re looking for how
we can correct them or disagree with them.
Your fallback phrase? “You may be right, and…”
The best way to respond to sarcasm is to use Limited Response . Respond only to the words or subject of the remark not
the emotion or tone behind it. Say the
words in your head without the tone and respond to them. That way you don’t get hooked! And a third technique? Be the
Goat! Practice these and you’ll be
better able to coexist with life’s difficult people—stay COOL when things heat
UP!
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