Daniel Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence, defines social skill as "friendliness with a purpose: moving people in the direction you desire, whether that's agreement on a new marketing strategy or enthusiasm about a new product." Purpose and enthusiasm remind me of my Mother, who would have turned 90 today. She died last March and, of course, I'm often reminded of her. She loved finding out about people and would plan gatherings in her apartment with one person as the focal point. She was fascinated about where they had grown up, where they had studied, where they had lived and the career paths they had traveled. Mother was an excellent teacher and leader. If you lead people, you'll want to read a comprehensive article by Goleman published in the Harvard Business Review. Entitled What Makes a Leader?, you can download it for $6.50. I'd call that intelligent!